Friday, April 27, 2012
What is love?
What exactly is love? Is it a strong passionate feeling of
the heart or is it a chemical drive formed in the body? These are questions
that are extremely hard to test as well as answer. In the book Marriage and family, scientists say that
people may interpret other emotions such as a strong sex drive, fear, or a
hunger for approval, as love. People marry for other reasons besides love but
love is a big contributing factor. When two people meet for the first time,
they notice if the person is attractive, easy to talk to, and comfortable to be
around. If they are harmonious together and share same interests and values,
they become even more attractive. Looks are not everything because every
individual has so much depth and charisma. It is easy to be physically
attracted to someone but I believe falling in love is more than attraction and
sexual desire. “It is attraction to and desire for a person with certain
qualities, attitudes, and mannerisms” (Lauer P. 132). Once people mutually
depend on each other, it leads to the fulfillment of people’s intimacy needs.
People need intimacy in the fact that they all need someone to love, someone to
confide in, someone to share experiences with, and someone to appreciate you
for all that you are. There are two kinds of love which are passionate love or
companionate love. Passionate love is the intense longing for union with a
certain person and intense joy along with jealousy. Companionate love is
affection for and commitment to someone that is deeply involved in one another’s
life. Love is a commitment to the spiritual growth of your companion’s spirit.
It is completely selfless and it is more than trying to satisfy one’s own
desires such as happiness. It is constantly worrying about the other’s well-being.
Besides the passionate love and companionate love, I think there is one more
kind of love. There is a Christ-like love. I think this is a means of caring
about every single person because we are all sons and daughters of God. Christ
loved the sinners as much as he loved the children. He knows the intent of
everybody’s heart and truly cares for the well-being of every individual’s
soul. He loves us so much that he bled from every pore and died for us. He is
the greatest example of selflessness and love. I know that Christ loves me and
I want to follow his great example and show a Christ-like love towards all of
God’s children.
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