Conflict in Marriage

 Within marriage, there is always going to be conflict. Conflict means that two different people have different ideas or opinions but it does not mean that the people do not like each other. Conflict does not mean that people need to fight or argue. About 60% of Americans freeze when it comes to fighting and blood pressure actually goes down instead of up. When this happens, there is not much logical thinking going on. This also happens when blood pressure goes up and it is important to recognize when this is going on before escalation and flooding occurs. When people are fighting and they seem angry, it is usually because they are hiding real emotions like sadness or pain. Some also experience fear because they do not want to lose the love of the other person. It is important to remind your partner that you love them when arguing and then maybe take a break to cool down. In most cases, those who enjoy the highest level of success are those who accept their spouse and do not try to change them. Everybody hates criticism and it is important to realize that there is no such thing as constructive criticism. In the end, just always remind your spouse that you love them even if there is conflict and always ensure your love before you start talking about a touchy subject. When couples go through really tough times, they usually come out a lot stronger than when they were first married. When people get married they need to make sure that they are completely committed so when challenges come up, they can work through them.