A New Child in the Family!

A couple’s marriage is not a continuous honeymoon. As couples go deeper into their marriage, satisfaction usually decreases about two weeks after they have their first child. That doesn’t mean that the individuals are unhappy but it just means that the individuals roles change and they are different than expected. When the first child is born, it is typical that the husband is left out and the grandma is becoming more involved in the mother’s and child’s life. The wife tends to migrate towards her mother because she is more experienced. This can create a split between the spouses and on top of extended family, there is usually less physical intimacy, less time together, and the topic of discussion is usually just about the child. When the home becomes an empty nest, the spouses still want to be in love and know that they are having a great marriage still. A great way to ensure this is have the dad become more involved in the pregnancy and share every moment of prenatal care. The mother should share moments of the child kicking with her husband. Naturally pregnant women will migrate towards other private women. The Lord wants us to overcome the natural man so people need to make this happen and make sure they act on intelligence rather than urges. It is sad because some men feel like they were just sperm donors. The man can help build the nursery, help to talk about things  beside the child, read child development books with the wife, men can learn how to be home-keepers, continue to have date nights, join in hobbies together, and establish family habits before the baby actually comes. The birth of a child should mainly between creating this new family and not necessarily involving all the relatives. They are important but the husband and wife are creating this new family unit between the two of them and it is a special moment for them. Spouses should become stronger with this new child because they should decide together what the needs are and decide together how it will get done. The spouses should help each other out with all tasks. Some women aren’t capable to have children so I think it is important to appreciate everything you have. There will be sacred moments with children and it is important to remember that God loves these children way beyond our own capability. We have the chance to work together and raise God’s children on this earth.