How to Date

Many people ask the question, “How do you know the right person to marry?” The best way to choose a spouse is to date and date correctly; Dating needs to be intentional and thoughtful. The dating “Know-Quo” has three steps to follow. The first way to get to know somebody is to talk and each individual practices mutual self-disclosure. That is the fact of how fast each person can tell their secrets and it is a two sided process. Time is very valuable in getting to know somebody because a person can put on a fake mask for at least 3 months. Togetherness is ideal and that is the act of seeing how the candidate reacts in a variety of situations and doing all types of activities together. It is very important to look at all the qualities of the person and see if there are any red flags. It is good to never settle for less than what you want but also to have reasonable expectations because nobody is perfect. So what exactly is a date? A date is something that is planned, paid for, and paired off. If it is planned, that means that there is a starting as well as an ending time. When it is paid for, that means that in most cases, the guy treats the girl. This doesn’t necessarily mean that dates are about money but it simply means that everything is prepared for. Paired off means that there is either a one on one date or double date but not just hanging out. People act differently in front of roommates than if they were paired off. When they are paired off, they are responsible for each other and they make sure that the other person is the most important person at that time and they protect each other from feeling like the third wheel. It is important to develop good habits because these caring habits almost always stay throughout a whole marriage relationship. Dating is good practice and if someone cannot have commitment for a few hours on a date, it shows that they cannot commit to a relationship. In the proclamation, it mentions three p’s that men should follow. They should preside, provide, and protect. This goes perfectly with the three P’s of dating which is very interesting. When you find somebody to love, it is important to have all four types of love for them. There is a Godlike unconditional love, a romantic love, the natural instinct love, and the friendly brotherly love. They are all important and when they are combined together, that is what makes a true love. To develop a true love, one must date and court and try to fully understand who a person really is.